This is going to sound angsty, so bear with me.
Have you kept sending text messages (it could be via email or any messaging service) with someone and felt so exasperated? It’s usually because the messages are administrative and clarifications seem to be going nowhere. There’s not random chit chat going on here, it’s messages to complete a task.
An added layer of exasperation is when the person messaging me is within walking distance. We could have had clarified and ended this conversation in a matter of minutes, but the person prefers messaging.
Also, I’ve received reasons like, “oh I didn’t know you were busy, so I message you first.” Valid. Until 10 messages in and my replies are immediate, so… for sure you’ve interrupted what I was doing and now have my undivided attention. My “busy-ness” is now you.
Admittedly, I should have gone over to speak to that person. After 10 back-and-forth messages, I don’t want to talk to the person anymore and have decided to be busy with something else.
Until I calm down, then I’ll re-engage, or ask for a call.
So if this happens to you, now you know.
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